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Originally Posted by songwriter  Hello Brendan. Well some months ago I almost didn't have any comunication with women (except the ones at work). But I had no idea of how to meet some out of that place.
And now I feel I can have a conversation of hours with some woman I've just met or slightly met the week before or so.
My little advice
1 You happy or not doesn't mind for this. I'm been happier that now many times but never met so many women. It's the same old trap, it's not you're (or me) not attractive, it's just you don't have the particular skill.
2 There are singles communities everywhere. People that don't know each other but go together to places. They know about the meeting through internet, but once they know about it they get TOGETHER and start talking really, so there you'll meet some women, whether you like them or not...
They're not dating sites. The meetings are lots of people that go to the same place.
3 Reality is that the place is everywhere. And actually discos and such use to be the worse place. Think of any place where you could see a woman and start talking with her (supermarket, train station, library, concert, etc. virtually anywhere).
This seemed as impossible to me some months ago, so I only did #2. Now I can approach some woman on a train (for instance), start talking for some minutes to the point of asking her out.
It sounds weird but it can go from zero to date in minutes.
The hardest thing for me is to find a excuse to start a conversation with a woman (anywhere...) but once it starts I'm enjoying the moment.
Well, you already know it... I still haven't had an official date with any of these... but well, I can't complain... I often spend time with women, we talk, we laugh, we have deep conversations... it's nice and easy really. |
Hey there songwriter, yep, they're only humans, and they speak english like we do, so there shouldn't be any problem communciating with them..
I disagree, being happy is attractive.. Seriously if you had a choice between an unbelievably happy girl or a really miserable girl, which would you choose?
I just find that girls respond well to being smiled at.. and I do this naturally when happy..
Good points actually, comes back to what I said about there being more women than men in the world, so they're everywhere..
Yeah, well I think I've been on one formal date in my life a few months ago, but really I've metup with girls to hang out with before, it's just I didn't really think of them as dates and I thought of this one as a "date" because I'd already held hands and kissed so it qualified as a date, because clearly that's what I was aiming to from it..
Anyway, all I can say about "going on a date" is don't formalise it to even call it a date, because that will make you serious and boring.. it makes sense doesn't it? Would you rather meet up to hang out, talk and have fun? or meet up for a job interview?