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Originally Posted by Mark Lapierre  The one thing that helps me most through times of low motivation and encroaching depression, is spending time with friends. Rather simple really, but powerful. I'm quite surprised that you haven't mentioned your friends at all in this thread. |
Well, perhaps this is part of the problem. The ladies at work are my closest friends, and we hang out occasionally after work. But I live 45 minutes down the mountain from where most of them are, which is a little inconvenient otherwise. I have one friend near where I live who isn't a constant drag, and she's usually swamped with grad school studies.
My other good friends are mostly in San Francisco... who used to be my coworkers when I lived there. (Hmm, I see a trend.)
One thing that I do that totally energizes me and lets me connect with people is my henna business, but I only have two regular gigs a month. And I worry about burning myself out if I grow my henna business too much
and have to deal with my primary job
and have to make time for both myself and my family/friend(s).
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Originally Posted by Cron That is it right there.
You need to make your happiness not dependent on your boyfriend.
You need to find reasons and motivation to do all of those good things for youself, as if your boyfriend didn't exist. |
Well, I am doing it primarily for myself, since I have to live with me 24/7 and he only sees me 6 days a month.
Maybe I got lazy when he wasn't traveling, because if I didn't plan anything fun for myself, he was always there to hang out with. It's starting to sound like I just need to make an effort to schedule myself social time -- which can be difficult, because even though I love people, I'm a little antisocial, and a lot of the times going out sounds like a miserable idea until I actually get out there and start having fun.
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Originally Posted by 빈센트 Don't lose focus quite yet. Get a journal or something. Start writing stuff. |
You know... I just had a chat with my buddy at work about this sort of thing. And I do need to start writing stuff. I used to write a lot, but it really fell by the wayside over the past few years -- I haven't written anything that wasn't assigned by my editor practically since I graduated. And since I do have all of this spare time, that would be a very therapeutic and productive thing for me to do.
By the way, how do you write your name in Roman letters?
Thanks everybody.
PS, the DDR game has been awesome, though my calves really hurt and I'm sure my downstairs neighbors hate me!