Actually, I am also quite active at the moment on a forum where a lot of gay people come, so that is quite okay. I even met someone IRL I first met on that forum. Too early to say if anything is going to come out of that, but at least I can say that with him I enjoyed dating which is quite a big plus anyhow. We'll see. Maybe I don't need all your nice advice anymore now.
@John Wesley:
I don't like bars so much because Steve Pavlina has convinced me of the benefits of becoming an early riser (I've become one around last summer), and I actually like being an early riser quite a lot. Bars generally mess up with that.
I'll also have a look (or rather a listen) at those podcasts.
@Norbert:
Maybe you should try some online forum as well. If you start posting about things that interest you, you should also find people that interest you.