You don't have to like people. Being a loner is counter-productive. If you're to get anywhere in life, you need people to be on your side to make the journey easier.
Some tips:
A Steve Pavlina tenet.
1. If you're not sure about something, make a decision quickly, and just do it. If you waste too much time thinking about things, you'll overthink them when doing them is so much simpler.
Take out a 30-day trial in social relations. Set a goal like, having a meaningful conversation with someone everyday. It doesn't have to be someone new. It could someone you already know. Remember, a relationship can always be strengthened.
The more of something you do, the more adept you will be at it. So spend more time with people, join more clubs. Start your own club.
Don't expect a smooth ride though. It take some work to remove excess cynicism.
Another thought is you HAVE to want it or you'll fall into the self-fulfilling prophecy trap. If you think it's not going to work, it won't work. So you need some resilience.
Be creative. Have fun with it. Find new ways to connect with people.  |