What you can start with is to open up to her. Not tell her about this, but to really communicate from the soul so to speak.
Talk about your dreams, hopes. Ask her about hers. Really listen to her!
Those are the things that will get human beings closer together. Do stuff together. If you are both shy, donīt be shy to each other. Go out, to the movies, to a play, to the market... do things together.
Help her with some of the houseword, loose some weigth if it makes you feel better, but those are just external issues. Yes, they can be very important, but what I get from your post is that you are missing the real "connection". You donīt just get that, youīll have to work for it.
Even when you are at home, watching a movie, talk about it afterwards. What did you like, what didnīt you like etc. Same with books, music. Talk, communicate!
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