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Originally Posted by JHL  Just something else to consider, I thought I would share those irritating questions with someone else! |
Heh, how kind of you
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I think most of us are or have been in such situations. I think you actually attract it or notice it more because of the changes that took place in yourself.
I agree with JHL here, try to be a well, not a fountain (got to remember that one). People will often resist more to 'force' coming from outside, but if you remove that force, and invite them with calm serene friendly wellwillingness to help, then eventually, they'll visit the well, that place where they can rest, relax, and ask for advice when they're ready for it.
For a long time I've tried to actively help some close relatives. I gave a lot of advice, and tried to be as objective as possible, not to point a finger but to offer advice. I thought my way of working was the way to handle the situation, and other close relatives admired me for it, they told me they were amazed and proud at how I acted.
However, the methods I used were too active. In stead of gaining result, all it did was creating more resistance from the other side. It almost ruined my relationship with those relatives.
I was "the fountain". A fountain of wisdom is still a fountain, too active in some situations.
My advice is to give a good example instead. Begin with yourself. Remember the law of attraction? In being so emotionally involved with your friends's problems, you make it your own problem, and eventually that will likely just make it worse.
Instead, take away your own inner resistance. Be sure that you have a good life, be sure that you feel good, be more clear and just observe your feelings, just notice them. Once you are at peace, you'll emit that positive energy. You'll attract more of it. I've noticed that people feel much more comfortable around me when I'm feeling at peace myself. Also, they even pick up on the things I do and the passive advise I give. They didn't do that when I was actively trying to help them. So in "not actively helping" you'll help them better.
Be the well.
Oh I love that quote!
