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Originally Posted by Dreamline  Staining the fun and rush and innocence of new desire with all sorts of "contractual" agreements is so banal. So undignified. So un-romantic. So buzz-killy. |
There's nothing contractual or undignified about it. Being able to be clear and confident about what you want is important and even attractive.
What is unromantic and buzz-killy is when you discover that the guy you've been dating and sleeping with for a few months, who you told very early on that you preferred to date one person at a time, has decided not to mention that he's actually doing the same with other women. I tell ya, that killed the romance and the buzz for me pretty damn quick... and got his ass dumped in short order.
Now I won't date anyone unless they have some clarity around what they're after. It doesn't necessarily eliminate them if they're just looking for something casual, but I like a man who's strong enough to know what he wants and is not afraid to say it.