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aggie · 07-30-2009, 05:50 PM

I too, have in the past been a yeller, a cryer, expected perfection even over little things, passive aggresive, sarcastic, manipulating....not all at the same time or with the same people

but seriously, it just came from a background of being taken advantage of and not being heard or listened to, i should say.

sometimes my about reactions were understandable because of the behavior and reactions that were directed towards me...

but in relationships i had no business being in...they were making me like that...there was self loathing...i hated what other were making me become until i realized that I could do something about it.

in the relationship i care about, i eventually learned the above behavior is futile and unproductive.

it takes two. it takes mutual respect. it takes communication. sometimes you need to get outside help.

i would never think now of being that verbally abusive.

good luck.

07-30-2009, 05:50 PM	#8 (permalink)
aggie Family Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,235	I too, have in the past been a yeller, a cryer, expected perfection even over little things, passive aggresive, sarcastic, manipulating....not all at the same time or with the same people but seriously, it just came from a background of being taken advantage of and not being heard or listened to, i should say. sometimes my about reactions were understandable because of the behavior and reactions that were directed towards me... but in relationships i had no business being in...they were making me like that...there was self loathing...i hated what other were making me become until i realized that I could do something about it. in the relationship i care about, i eventually learned the above behavior is futile and unproductive. it takes two. it takes mutual respect. it takes communication. sometimes you need to get outside help. i would never think now of being that verbally abusive. good luck.