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Originally Posted by tomn8er  I agree with this. That's why I told the girl the day after the first date. Perhaps it was too soon, but based on the way things were progressing, I wanted to tell her before we actually had sex so she wouldn't get hurt or feel used. Well, I doubt there's going to be a second date now. I just think that sucks because if I had been like most other ******** and kept my mouth shut I wouldn't be on my own again now.  |
No, but then you would be like most other ********!
It may make it harder for you to meet women who want the same things, but it's best in the long run.
I disagree with Jennifer that being clear about your intentions from the outset is placing someone else's state of mind above your own. It doesn't need to be a big dramatic speech... something like, "Hey, I'm really enjoying getting to know you, and I'd like to continue to do so. Just so there's no confusion though, I'm not looking for anything too serious right now, and I hope you're cool with us both being able to see other people for now. Are you?"
If she's into the same thing, this will come as a relief to her! She'll be glad she's met a guy who's going to take things easy. If she's looking for a more serious relationship, she'll know right away that your current goals are incompatible and nobody's time will be wasted/feelings hurt.