Just as everyone said, ask her out upfront. Tell her that you're interested in her. But be ready for an answer and to act on it. If she likes you, great. If not, well, don't try again and again. You might say "I wont" right now but it becomes VERY tempting and I'm seeing a friend going through this now.
If she says no, then cut that option right out of your mind. If you need to distance yourself from her for a bit to take that crush out, do so. You might think you'll ruin a friendship that way but if you tell her that you need some time to put things back into perspective so you can go back to being friends, you might actually save the friendship.
Just be responsible for whatever the outcome of your actions is and learn from it. If this doesn't work out, do something different next time. Ask the girl out right away for coffee and figure out if you want to date her before you develope a crush. If you think she has potential, then ask continue the behaviour that leads to a relationship (i.e give her a kiss on the first/second/third, whatever date you feel works for you. Just don't prolonge it)
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