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Originally Posted by tomn8er  Good point. I never thought about it like that. But what if you've met them and you decide they aren't Miss Right? That's pretty much what I've determined with the girl I saw on Sunday... for a variety of reasons lol. But I still would like to continue to get to know her and spend time together (beyond the bedroom stuff  ). |
I'm not sure you really know what you want, based on this thread. Not that you HAVE to know such things, in life. That's what is great about life. You don't have to have all the answers.
There is dating with the intention of meeting a mate and there is dating for only fun and companionship. Some people combine them, some have strong ideas that go only in one direction or another.
You seem like you want both. Maybe at the same time. You also seem extremely reluctant to hurt anyone. Let me just say that you can't have your cake and eat it too when it comes to casual dating and NOT hurting people. It's part of the deal.
I would suggest, rather than complicating this ball of wax any further with too much thought, just date. Don't explain yourself. Don't make promises you can't keep. Be your casual self. Be happy. Be confident. If you are challenged by any of the women you are seeing, explain. Confidently and kindly that you are also seeing other women. It's not a crime. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
You have chosen a specific game where you may not get to keep your toys, though, when the game gets hot and heavy. So you have to accept that.
Jennifer