Don't pour your heart out to her man. Ask her out on a casual date, like coffee. You're already in the friend zone... the best you can do is get her alone, start teasing her, get her to laugh... you want to see if she's into you before you embarass yourself. If this goes sour, you may lose a friendship.
It's tough. And I would strongly recommend, for you to avoid making friends with girls and chatting online in the future in a platonic way. If you do this you are in store for lots of pain, frustration, heartbreak.
I've been down this road too many times. Women aren't generally attracted to men who talk about emotional stuff... it's like you become a girl to them.
She's already asked you about your friend.
Do whatever feels right to you, but my suggestion is, be very casual. Don't pour your heart out. See if she wants to be alone with you. She'll know what's up. And if she's interested, she'll help you along. If not, she'll let you know before you even manage to finish your little speech. Good luck.
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