Personal Development for Smart People Forums - View Single Post

willnesbitt · 07-29-2009, 07:43 PM

How important are looks and appearance when dating? Does it weigh pretty heavily in your decision on who and who not to date?

When I was younger, I would date anyone who liked me regardless of how they looked. They were very nice people but I was not really attracted to them. When I look back, I was trying to be nice and didn't want to be labeled as 'shallow'. I also went to the other extreme and dated so-called "hot" girls simply because they were "hot"; but I didn't connect with them beyond the physical.

Now, that I'm older, I know what I want and looks I do factor looks into my decision. It definitely doesn't outweigh personality and the ability to connect on several different levels, but it does have some weight.

Part of me believes that it shouldn't really matter as long as the person is good to you and you work well together as companions. Another part of me believes that you should still be attracted to this person. And yes, looks do fade. So, should we even be concerned with it? Or is that a convenient excuse to not keep ourselves looking good for our mates?

What are your thoughts on looks and appearances and how they factor into relationships?

07-29-2009, 07:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
willnesbitt Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 49	Looks and Appearances How important are looks and appearance when dating? Does it weigh pretty heavily in your decision on who and who not to date? When I was younger, I would date anyone who liked me regardless of how they looked. They were very nice people but I was not really attracted to them. When I look back, I was trying to be nice and didn't want to be labeled as 'shallow'. I also went to the other extreme and dated so-called "hot" girls simply because they were "hot"; but I didn't connect with them beyond the physical. Now, that I'm older, I know what I want and looks I do factor looks into my decision. It definitely doesn't outweigh personality and the ability to connect on several different levels, but it does have some weight. Part of me believes that it shouldn't really matter as long as the person is good to you and you work well together as companions. Another part of me believes that you should still be attracted to this person. And yes, looks do fade. So, should we even be concerned with it? Or is that a convenient excuse to not keep ourselves looking good for our mates? What are your thoughts on looks and appearances and how they factor into relationships?