I feel I'm taken for granted by my boyfriend.
At the beginning of our relationship, he tried to make me into the woman he was really in love with. He attemtped to change the way I dress ("You should dress more like person x..."), the way I styled my hair ("You should wear your hair like THIS, it looks really good), which I later discovered was the way person x styled their hair daily... Just everything in addition to little things. It's as if he tried to make me into this person and I'm repulsed by it.
We are still together and I still feel the pain of it. He insists that it's no longer like that. My identity was ripped away from me. And it was all my fault because I LET it happen. I let him try to change me and I LET him take my person, character, and identity for granted.
Fast forward a year later and he argues and lies his way through everything. He acts as if I'll always be around and that he can do nothing bad enough for me to break it off with him. My love and relationship is taken for granted. And I have no one to blame but myself.
In repsonse to the first question of yours, my boyfriend would deny I'm taken for granted. He would respond with a petty and once-in-the-relationship answer and then turn the situation around on me. A supreme example of an emotional manipulator.
In repsonse to the second question, perhaps things would be different in our relationship. But I have so low self-esteem that I could never imagine going that far. I don't feel I'm good enough to evoke his jealousy... and thus the cycle and one long horrible relationship continues...
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