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zjukl1 · 02-06-2007, 09:39 PM

Hi, after trying to find answers to this problem many places I thought I'd try in this mekka of personal development.

There seems to be some wise heads around here, so I'll give it a shot.

I've had this problem of facial blushing (look it up at wikipedia) as long as I can remember and I consider this one of the biggest problems in my personal development, holding me back in sevral areas. It's bringing on a lot of social anxiety. Whenever I'm talking to a larger group, giving a presentation or talking to someone I like, my head gets tomato red and feels so warm that it feels like it's going to boil over and explode. Now, you may think "just get over it, It's not a big problem" or "just accept it" or "think of something else". I would love to do that, but just imagine giving an presentation feeling this way! That's pretty hard to just accept as a 20 year old man. And even though I would be able to accept it, it would still be there and it feels pretty unplesant. Also you may argue with this, I know some say it's attractive, but it IS a sign of weakness, and some people even think that it's a indication for dishonsty. It seems like this blushing is so deeply engrained in my subconcious mind that it can't be overridden by the conicous mind. Sometimes I even blush before I get aware that I feel anxiety!

I have looked into the various options for treating this, and they are NOT really good. I'm not going to be taking anti-depressants with 20 different side-effects for this forever. And there is a surgury for this, but I haven't found one person who gives advice to have it, unless as a last resort. It's actually considered very very risky and also is very expenisve. Additionally there are some fluffy bluffy scam herbs around claiming to partially heal it.

Hypnosis, relaxation, meditation, NLP and CBT (comprehenisve behavioural theraphy) has also been suggested and I've had litte success with it, and can't see them actually "cure" it. The "stop blushing" download from hypnosis-downloads.com is just ridiculuous. Maybe if I were hypnosed 3hours every day for 12 months, it would work. But I have little faith in using this kind of techniques, because it is actually a partly physical problem (altough social anxiey and shyness contributes) and also because it is a LOT of effort using them.

This problem brings much stress, anxiety and depression to my life. So please if you can enlighten me with something I haven't yet considered, It would be deeply appriciated. Thanks.

Edit: Just to clearify I'm not talking about rosacea, but regular blushing triggered by embarassment, shame etc

02-06-2007, 09:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
zjukl1 Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 2	Blushing Hi, after trying to find answers to this problem many places I thought I'd try in this mekka of personal development. There seems to be some wise heads around here, so I'll give it a shot. I've had this problem of facial blushing (look it up at wikipedia) as long as I can remember and I consider this one of the biggest problems in my personal development, holding me back in sevral areas. It's bringing on a lot of social anxiety. Whenever I'm talking to a larger group, giving a presentation or talking to someone I like, my head gets tomato red and feels so warm that it feels like it's going to boil over and explode. Now, you may think "just get over it, It's not a big problem" or "just accept it" or "think of something else". I would love to do that, but just imagine giving an presentation feeling this way! That's pretty hard to just accept as a 20 year old man. And even though I would be able to accept it, it would still be there and it feels pretty unplesant. Also you may argue with this, I know some say it's attractive, but it IS a sign of weakness, and some people even think that it's a indication for dishonsty. It seems like this blushing is so deeply engrained in my subconcious mind that it can't be overridden by the conicous mind. Sometimes I even blush before I get aware that I feel anxiety! I have looked into the various options for treating this, and they are NOT really good. I'm not going to be taking anti-depressants with 20 different side-effects for this forever. And there is a surgury for this, but I haven't found one person who gives advice to have it, unless as a last resort. It's actually considered very very risky and also is very expenisve. Additionally there are some fluffy bluffy scam herbs around claiming to partially heal it. Hypnosis, relaxation, meditation, NLP and CBT (comprehenisve behavioural theraphy) has also been suggested and I've had litte success with it, and can't see them actually "cure" it. The "stop blushing" download from hypnosis-downloads.com is just ridiculuous. Maybe if I were hypnosed 3hours every day for 12 months, it would work. But I have little faith in using this kind of techniques, because it is actually a partly physical problem (altough social anxiey and shyness contributes) and also because it is a LOT of effort using them. This problem brings much stress, anxiety and depression to my life. So please if you can enlighten me with something I haven't yet considered, It would be deeply appriciated. Thanks. Edit: Just to clearify I'm not talking about rosacea, but regular blushing triggered by embarassment, shame etc Last edited by zjukl1; 02-06-2007 at 11:19 PM.