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Originally Posted by starchamber  I agree that it demonstrated his level of trust for me and that's why I'm reluctant to tell him how it has impacted me. |
So he trusts you, shares with you honestly but you don't reciprocate? Mmmm....
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My gut told me he had an attraction for my girlfriend and that prompted the discussion. Now when she's around I feel nervous and have lost my confidence.
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How come?
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I wonder if a situation arose and I wasn't there whether they would go for it. My girlfriend is single and has shared with me about flings she's had with husbands of friends of hers.
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Lack of trust in boyfriend and in lady friend.
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What gets me steaming hot with sex is images of him, images of sexual positions we've done in the past. That's what does it for me. I'm just not interested in anyone else that way.
I understand how you say it is my interpretation of his honesty.
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Many men I know fantasize about sex with different women than their partner. Whether you like it or not, it seems to be how we are wired.
Many women do the same. You don't, and you don't need to if you don't want to.
I suggest you work on your confidence. Insecurity and (possible) jealousy will not improve the relationship.
On a related matter: the fact that we 'demand' faithfulness from our partners makes the longing for 'forbidden fruit' even stronger. If we just let go of faithfulness wrt sex, life could be much easier, and the longing for sex with others would probalby be not as strong.