Obviously reasons will vary from guy to guy, but here's my two cents from dealing with similar situations.
More than once this summer, I've had girls who I have been flirting with start texting/calling me frequently, and it is killed my attraction towards them. It's not that I mean to play games with them, but their behavior shows that they are at best losing their cool, and at worst are already showing needy behavior. I am basically getting the vibe that they want to be in a relationship with me already, before we have even really had a chance to see if we click well yet. Personally, I am repulsed by the "I need a relationship [with you]" vibe and actively evade it. This is basically the same thing as when guys start aggressively pursuing a girl after a single mediocre date.
Now, from what little you have said I have no reason to believe you have done any of this. It is certainly possible he is intentionally playing some stupid game like "pretend to be aloof" but it could be any number of things. When I do something similar to what it sounds like he's doing, it is usually because I am on the fence about how much I am into the girl, and resent being pushed one way or the other.
My advice would be to just play it cool, be yourself. Date other people and don't wait for him to make up his mind, but don't push him to an ultimatum either. He'll make up his mind one way or another eventually. Give him the space to take the initiative.
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