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Originally Posted by James81  I wouldn't lie about it, but I wouldn't go broadcasting it either. You are under NO obligation to tell women you are casually dating that you are casually dating more than one woman.
You are only obligated to tell them when you get into a relationship. |
True... but then what happens?? This is basically the reason me and my gf broke up - I knew what I wanted but I didn't tell her. I'm glad to say I never cheated on her but after 3 months of keeping silent I ended up breaking up with her, ostensibly over a minor argument, but the real reason was because I knew she wasn't cool with an open relationship and I didn't want to stay 'stuck'. I'm not going to say it wasn't worth the heartache because I did enjoy our short relationship overall, but ideally I want a situation where we're both on the same page so I can get what I want and no one gets hurt.
The problem is that the woman's default assumption is that you are only seeing them. Sure you can say that this is their problem or even a societal problem - "not my fault" - but playing on peoples' assumptions is still being dishonest. Even so, I am skeptical at how effective this approach will be... I'd rather be totally honest up front, but most women won't even
consider an open relationship and trying to convince them by reasoning with them is about as effective as trying to 'reason them' out of any other ingrained belief. (i.e. pretty much hopeless)