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elainevdw · 02-06-2007, 05:58 PM

So my boyfriend got a job that's 100% travel. We calculated that, for the course of his current project, he's only home 6 days a month. Now, I'm fine with having time to myself. But we're into the second month of the project, and I feel like I've lost all motivation.

I was doing great with working out 4-5 days a week, eating healthfully, taking care of stuff at work or hanging out with my family so I wouldn't be home alone too much. But last week, my TV watching rose about 300%, I haven't been dragging myself to bed on time so I'm getting less sleep, I binge on junk food despite myself, and I've only done the occasional yoga class -- no running (and here I wanted to do a 5K!). My financial discipline is sliding a little bit. And I feel so discontent. Like, feel-good movies don't make me feel good; they make me think, "That looks so fun and exotic! Damn, I wish I could do something like that." And I wake up on the wrong side of the bed all too many mornings, in a bad mood from the get-go.

What is going on? And how do I kick myself out of it? Not only do I want to be happy, content and motivated for my own sake, but I want to be upbeat for my boyfriend's sake as well (because as much as it sucks being home alone, it's gotta be worse being at a hotel alone in a strange city).

Honestly, I haven't felt like this since I was an angsty teenager. I'm fairly sure it's not full-fledged depression -- mostly boredom and lonliness.

I wonder if I should pick up a new hobby, but I'd much rather continue with my other hobbies (yoga, running, henna, finances) until I'm really good at them. It's just tough to stick to it.

02-06-2007, 05:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
elainevdw Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Reno/Tahoe, NV, USA Posts: 375	Boredom & lonliness So my boyfriend got a job that's 100% travel. We calculated that, for the course of his current project, he's only home 6 days a month. Now, I'm fine with having time to myself. But we're into the second month of the project, and I feel like I've lost all motivation. I was doing great with working out 4-5 days a week, eating healthfully, taking care of stuff at work or hanging out with my family so I wouldn't be home alone too much. But last week, my TV watching rose about 300%, I haven't been dragging myself to bed on time so I'm getting less sleep, I binge on junk food despite myself, and I've only done the occasional yoga class -- no running (and here I wanted to do a 5K!). My financial discipline is sliding a little bit. And I feel so discontent. Like, feel-good movies don't make me feel good; they make me think, "That looks so fun and exotic! Damn, I wish I could do something like that." And I wake up on the wrong side of the bed all too many mornings, in a bad mood from the get-go. What is going on? And how do I kick myself out of it? Not only do I want to be happy, content and motivated for my own sake, but I want to be upbeat for my boyfriend's sake as well (because as much as it sucks being home alone, it's gotta be worse being at a hotel alone in a strange city). Honestly, I haven't felt like this since I was an angsty teenager. I'm fairly sure it's not full-fledged depression -- mostly boredom and lonliness. I wonder if I should pick up a new hobby, but I'd much rather continue with my other hobbies (yoga, running, henna, finances) until I'm really good at them. It's just tough to stick to it.