You're on the wrong ladder. I only know of one or two guys who can and have and do successfully jump the ladders, but...they wouldn't be posting here so I don't think you're one of them.
There's a few things here. 1. There are always great friendships to be had. For a simple psychological reason that you like what you have a lot more than uncertainty (fear of change). 2. You're operating out of a scarcity mentality in relation to human relationships. Convert to an abundance mentality and see how it affects you. Believe that there are great people and great relationships out there and you're ready for them. 3. If your friendship is so strong, it should be ok with you revealing your feeilngs, HOWEVER, you need to make it clear that if she says no, you will not pursue her anymore. Hanging around makes you less likely to be asked out because it makes you seem less dominant and confident (as per the other thread). 4. Make sure you really do like her.
That last point may sound a little strange. Guys are not like girls, we don't segregate the people with meet into friend or boyfriend material. We have the ability to start liking the women we hang around with a lot. Make sure that you are not being affected by not talking to more than her or a very few women and that you actually have genuine feelings for her and you think she's a great person. This point is important.
Be ok with walking away if the friendship turns sour. If this was a bet, that is your downside, losing the friendship. Your upside is possibly gaining a relationship. The question is, what kind of a risk-taker are you?
Take heart: men everywhere find the courage to tell their female friends that they mean more to them than just friends...and get shot down. You are not alone, it's an experience in life everyone should have.
I don't know whether I actually clarified the situation any.
Good luck!
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