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MonkeyFace · 07-25-2009, 09:01 PM

Hi, all,

I'm 15 years old. I';ve been dating my girlfriend for 4 and a half months (she's my first girlfriend, if that's important).

I had a crush on her for nearly a year until I asked her out, so I was pretty happy when she agreed. I don't want to bore you all, but basically, it started out great - we had a lot of fun, the kissing was fun, the hanging out was fun everything was fun.

Now, it's not so great. She;s quite forceful with the kissing in public (mainly at school). In all seriousness, it's almsot like she's too horny. Everytime I turn around, she wants a kiss (and more, in private).

She's a great girl, and I do really like her. But she also slaps me when I'm cheeky to teachers or my friends at school, and I'm a little tired of it.

And, to top it all off, I'm starting to think that I've lost physical attraction to her. Guaranteed, looks aren;t everything, but it's still important to me.

I've talked to her about the kissing in public thing, and she agreed to hold off, but then started again after a few days. The slapping thing is yet to be discussed. She went on holiday today for three weeks, which i'm grateful for, as it'll give me time to think.

I'm not sure I want to continue in a relationship with her, but if I decide to break it off, I'm a little worried. Firstly, she has been telling me that she loves me, and I have been telling her the same (and I thought I did, until like yesterday, when I put all this into perspective). Secondly, she's a very passionate girl, and I don't know whether breaking up with her is going to make her burst into tears, accept it, or... well, try and bust my balls (literally).

What do I do? I'm going to spend the time that I have while she is away to think about it all. I know that if I want out, I should break it off - it isn;t healthy for me to go out with this girl if I'm not happy, right? - but if it comes to that I also want to remain friends, because I do like her.

My apologies for making this so long, but I could really use some advice, even if it's jsut re-iterating something I mentioned above.

Many thanks,
~MonkeyFace.

PS. I just had a thought as I was typing this out. Maybe it's more that I'm too immature for a comfortable relationship at this moment in time?

07-25-2009, 09:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
MonkeyFace Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 171	I'm not sure what to do - girlfriend problems Hi, all, I'm 15 years old. I';ve been dating my girlfriend for 4 and a half months (she's my first girlfriend, if that's important). I had a crush on her for nearly a year until I asked her out, so I was pretty happy when she agreed. I don't want to bore you all, but basically, it started out great - we had a lot of fun, the kissing was fun, the hanging out was fun everything was fun. Now, it's not so great. She;s quite forceful with the kissing in public (mainly at school). In all seriousness, it's almsot like she's too horny. Everytime I turn around, she wants a kiss (and more, in private). She's a great girl, and I do really like her. But she also slaps me when I'm cheeky to teachers or my friends at school, and I'm a little tired of it. And, to top it all off, I'm starting to think that I've lost physical attraction to her. Guaranteed, looks aren;t everything, but it's still important to me. I've talked to her about the kissing in public thing, and she agreed to hold off, but then started again after a few days. The slapping thing is yet to be discussed. She went on holiday today for three weeks, which i'm grateful for, as it'll give me time to think. I'm not sure I want to continue in a relationship with her, but if I decide to break it off, I'm a little worried. Firstly, she has been telling me that she loves me, and I have been telling her the same (and I thought I did, until like yesterday, when I put all this into perspective). Secondly, she's a very passionate girl, and I don't know whether breaking up with her is going to make her burst into tears, accept it, or... well, try and bust my balls (literally). What do I do? I'm going to spend the time that I have while she is away to think about it all. I know that if I want out, I should break it off - it isn;t healthy for me to go out with this girl if I'm not happy, right? - but if it comes to that I also want to remain friends, because I do like her. My apologies for making this so long, but I could really use some advice, even if it's jsut re-iterating something I mentioned above. Many thanks, ~MonkeyFace. PS. I just had a thought as I was typing this out. Maybe it's more that I'm too immature for a comfortable relationship at this moment in time?