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Originally Posted by jamesbiz  I've finally been putting my self out there, while before I was only meeting friends of friends, and that was easy. I'm a nice guy, so girls find it easy to talk to me. I listen, AND pay attention, and always look them in the eyes, etc etc. Because of that, the girls that I don't like, start to like me. They are usually great people to be friends with, but I am usually not attracted to them. I can't just not be nice to them. I just treat everyone nicely all around, which I guess can send off the wrong singles. But, I'm also using this as practice, as I've been pretty hesitant to try anything for awhile, and my social skills are very dull. Just the sheer act of sharpening my skills, I attract people. I have no idea how to let them down easy, or show them I just wanna be friends. At least with out feeling guilty for some reason or another. Which is where the whole nice guy thing comes into play.
I can sit there and listen for hours to anyone with my complete attention on them, but to them, that's a sign of me liking them.
I need a few encouraging words, thank you  |
If you don't want em I'll have them..
Rejection hurts and really the only polite rejection I can think of is to say you're gay, or not interested in a relationship at the moment.
I wonder if you're giving interest to girls that you're not actually interested in and this is a problem? Maybe you want to use your attractive qualities and give your attention and energy to the girls you really are interested in.