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Originally Posted by tc33 
Erock - are you saying that confidence isn't a factor for women when looking for a 'long term mate/marriage' relationship, or are you saying that it is just less of a factor? Additionally, I would agree that one would be attracted to another at a higher level of consciousness, as conscious individuals are more likely to know where they're going with their life, have confidence, have fewer character flaws, etc.
Good discussion, thanks all!
Tom
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Yes I believe it is an important initial factor, because confidence on the outside translates into confidence in the bedroom, which is the number one important thing (especially for younger women). Women want to take a super confident guy (a jerk with good sex) and turn him into a long term relationship nice guy, while still maintaining that confidence.
Sex is the most important thing for both genders. Education, sense of humor, money, niceness, kindness, don't necessarily translate to good sex, but confidence is the best indicator women have to go off of. That's why it is the first thing they look for. It makes sense. Guys look for nice bodies, girls look for confidence. We're both after the same thing.
But most women are looking for a relationship. So they try to take their newly captured confident guy, and turn him into a more long term relationship nice guy, while still maintaining that confidence (good sex). "Players" capitalize on this by not only acting confident, but showing signs that they might be willing to turn into a nice long term relationship guy.
It's a tricky situation
Erock