Well, different relationships have different forms of love. A mother has unconditional love for a child. But a friendship cannot be entirely unconditional since the relationship is based on mutual respect, attention, and investment. If one friend stops investing in the relationship, is that really a friendship?
A marriage/relationship must have conditions and boundaries. You can unconditionally love a person but the commitment is not unconditional otherwise everything would fall apart. Telling him your wants is not a bad way of approaching a relationship at all, especially if you intend on marrying this guy. A relationship is based on two people and if one person isn't carrying their weight, that isn't a healthy relationship. Love is very important in a relationship, but it's not the only thing.
The best thing to do would be to communicate your grievances and needs to him and set the conditions that you would like for him to meet. That would be of course after assessing whether or not your conditions are points that are valid and fair. I think it would be good for you to tell him that you are there to support him and that you are willing to work with him to make the relationship better.
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