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jwilkins · 07-24-2009, 02:44 PM

I just can't get over the fact that my husband chose to leave me when our daughter was 2 months old..This is when he left the first time, then just 2 weeks ago (the baby is now 4 months old) he left again, after trying counselling for 5 weeks. I also found out recently that his reason for wanting to have a child was because he thought it would bring us closer together.. Now that we are separated, I am left literally holding the baby.
I would not trade my daughter for anything, but if I knew my husbands reasoning for wanting to try for a family, I would have waited until we were on more solid ground in our relationship.I would never chosen to have a child to bring up on my own... I had no idea he was feeling so disconnected... Now that we are seperated, he is living a great life, doing whatever he wants as he sees the baby only every other weekend and every wednesday.. I am home everyday and night with the baby, trying to care for her the best I can while dealing with this separation. His reason for leaving me is that he fell out of love with me..This is not the man I married and have loved for 10 years..I don't understand what is going on?? How do I get rid of the anger I have for him doing this to me??

07-24-2009, 02:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
jwilkins Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 11	Has anyone's spouse left them when their child was only a few months old? I just can't get over the fact that my husband chose to leave me when our daughter was 2 months old..This is when he left the first time, then just 2 weeks ago (the baby is now 4 months old) he left again, after trying counselling for 5 weeks. I also found out recently that his reason for wanting to have a child was because he thought it would bring us closer together.. Now that we are separated, I am left literally holding the baby. I would not trade my daughter for anything, but if I knew my husbands reasoning for wanting to try for a family, I would have waited until we were on more solid ground in our relationship.I would never chosen to have a child to bring up on my own... I had no idea he was feeling so disconnected... Now that we are seperated, he is living a great life, doing whatever he wants as he sees the baby only every other weekend and every wednesday.. I am home everyday and night with the baby, trying to care for her the best I can while dealing with this separation. His reason for leaving me is that he fell out of love with me..This is not the man I married and have loved for 10 years..I don't understand what is going on?? How do I get rid of the anger I have for him doing this to me??