Hehe, this sort of finishes the thread for me already. You are so sweet! And no he doesn't beat me, at all.
What you said is the answer I knew was right all along, but somehow couldn't fit it into my value system. It's strange, but once again I lumped two things together, unconditional love and staying together.
I will once again take your advice to heart and lovingly share my non-negotiables. I'm really curious as to the outcome. I'll let you know in this thread how it works out!
Also related to the other thread from a while ago ... I have really started accepting life now, not just my partner, and it truly feels like I'm waking up from a 4 year long dream. It has really grounded me and it's such a relief to stop investing energy in answering the question: "Why in God's name aren't you the way you're supposed to be???".
Thank you so much for that, it has made a world of difference to me. I'm having a real hard time suppressing the desire to idolize you right now ...
P.S. It's funny how you mentioned the beating, because just this weekend I was shocked to look at my life and realize that I seem to display all the symptoms of being a victim of child abuse, even though I have no memory of it whatsoever. I think you're picking up on that energy in me.