Hey there, mtrimpe! You can love someone without reservation and at the same time have circumstances that make you unwilling to remain committed to him. It's not the love that's conditional; it's the choice to remain together that's conditional.
You can stay with him with love, or you can break up with him with love. Telling him, "you have got to change or I'm leaving" probably isn't communication that has a lot of love in it! But being clear about your non-negotiables is a very loving thing to do, for both of your lives to work.
One caveat: does this guy beat you? If so, please leave him today, right now. Don't say even one more word to him. I'm hoping you just used that as an example, and are not actually in physical danger.
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