[mtrimpe]

For everyone who followed my previous post, I had trouble accepting my boyfriend as who he was, expecting him to be/become my dream-prince instead of accepting what is. I've since accepted what is and I find that I'm not in a state of unconditional love. I love my boyfriend, but for us to remain together for the rest of our lives, things will have to change.

That's why I'm asking the following:

If you openly communicate that the love is not unconditional, that things will need to change, is that a really bad way of approaching a relationship? Is it doomed to fail? Or is it secretly the way every relationship should be approached.

One problem I have with unconditional love is that it can't be taken to extremes. You can love a partner unconditionally, but if he starts beating you after marriage, that becomes just plain stupid.

Isn't love meant to be conditional? Isn't true love finding someone whom you trust to meet your conditions?