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Originally Posted by jwilkins 
I have recently been presented with a fantastic business opportunity to become part owner/general manager in a resort about an hour and a half from where we live now. I am very tempted to take the offer, but I am very nervous that if I do, I could be ruining a chance for reconciliation in the future. If I became part owner, I wouldn't just be able to move back here if he wanted to reconcile. He would have to move there?? Part of me thinks that if he really wanted us, that he would go wherever we are, and an hour and a half isn't that big of a deal. This opportunity would mean financal security for my daughter and I, but do I risk it..??I mean, he has made no promises whatsoever about reconciliation, but he also has no plans right now of filing for divorce. I have noticed little changes in him that indicate he might be missing me, but for now nothing has changed.
I really don't know what to do...What do you guys think??
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First, take heart that this very hard time is meant to happen. You are going to learn some lessons that you need to learn about your life with this sad event.
Secondly, I think the opportunity was meant to happen. I think your husband's separation from you may be an opportune gap in your life to move in this new direction.
He may come back, he may not. Either way, don't hang on hope. It will prolong your depression. Look at this moment which has filled you with fear and sadness straight in the face and look for the meaning. Remind yourself that whatever sadness you are feeling...it is nothing in comparison to the sadness if you were to lose your daughter. Put things into perspective. You have her safe and sound in your arms. And now she needs you more than ever to be in control of yourself.
Best to you.