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Originally Posted by Grindin  Does it really matter what she should be doing, or does it simply matter what she IS doing?
Really? I see black while your seeing white. This women hurt you, manipulated you and doesn't respect you yet you still give her part of your time and life because...your value JUDGEMENTS! In this particular case do you think they could be holding you back and even hurting you? |
I promise I'm not being intentionally daft, but the last part of your statement wasn't 'exactly' clear to me. If you're so inclined, could you state it again another way?
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Why put yourself in a negative situation? For growth? Bah. Only one life, bro. Doesn't waste your time. Couldn't grow more and have more fun in a better situation?
I DO understand your wanting to prove to yourself that you can deal with this. Everyone prolly can--but, at the end of the day...it's more wise to cherry pick your battles.
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Absolutely. It's as silly to me as it is to you that I require placing my hand in the fire (again) to know that it's hot. But denying that I want to hasn't served me either. As the title suggest..I'm still ruminating. I've sought and entered a 'better situation,' but I still feel haunted/bound by my previous relationship even though I've been separated from her both in time and space for over a year.
What have you done in the past when your mind and your intuition/emotion has directed you in divergent ways?