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Originally Posted by pantera  If I were you, I would stay out of it. Don't mediate. Let them meet each other without you.
If you take part, I would bet at some point one of them will accuse you of taking sides, whether it is true or not. And then you will be deeper into the mess. I would instead tell each of them that you are friends with both of them, and will remain so no matter what happens -- but you are staying out of it. Each will have to accept that you are friends with the other.
I'm embarrassed to admit that I was a feuding part of such a predicament. I dated a girl that had a mutual friend with me. And it ended UGLY (not my fault -- really  ). I couldn't even stand the sound of the woman's name being uttered afterward, which made it really tough on our friend. It took me well over a year to "normalize" relations with the friend. And yes  , I still hate the witch, six years later. 
DON'T GET INVOLVED. |
I've got a couple of friends that have been embroiled in a feud for the past year or so. That's the way I handled it and its worked pretty well--I've made clear that I value both of them as friends, their issue doesn't involve me at all, and I plan to remain friends with both of them. I'll sometime make some logistical adjustments--eg: not inviting one when I know the other is coming to some function--but that's more for my sanity than theirs. Basically, if you're not involved its not your problem and there's no reason to let yourself get dragged in.