I think there are two kinds of attraction: 1) animal-based lust/drive for reproduction and 2) more evolved masculine/feminine sexual polarity attraction.
For 1), we are acting more from primordial animal instincts, and thus waist-hip ratio, large breasts, beautiful face for women and dominance/confidence for men. Also, it seems like 1) is more easily manipulated by the media to "program" us into believing what is attractive and what isn't.
However, I think there is a next stage, i.e. 2), for this attraction, and it's what David Deida goes into in his books, "The Way of the Superior Man" (for men) and "Dear Lover" (for women), where there are masculine and feminine sexual polarities that are attracted to each other by essence. In this stage, men are attracted to feminine radiance, whereas females are attracted to masculine presence.
Anyway, to answer your original question, I think confidence is a good general indicator that reflects masculine essence, and that is what is attractive, not confidence itself. Confident men who aren't masculine, I don't think there is any sexual attraction because there is no more sexual polarity involved, it's too balanced.  |