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Originally Posted by cylon  just curious, what is your reason for posting this topic? You looking to get women or is it just an intellectual thing? |
cylon - primarily my reason was intellectual. As a former non-confident person (in my teens) now turned confident person (late twenties), I simply didn't understand why confidence is looked upon so favorably.
I've experienced both ends of the spectrum and I don't truly believe that one's apparent confidence is an accurate indicator of their ability. For example, when I had a relationship with my first girlfriend (at 19), my self-confidence increased an order of magnitude practically overnight. Was I really a better, more able person simply because I had a girlfriend? Of course not.
I believe that each of us has a significant amount of human potential. I suppose the reason I don't value confidence as highly as most others is because I believe a few kind, supportive words to the right person at the right time in their lives can prompt an insecure person to tap into their potential and become a confident person almost instantly. Moreover, at least in my experience, I have seen that many outwardly confident people are often trying to cover up some character flaw, which also sours my perception of confidence as an indicator of ability. Apparently, the world does not share my opinion. Hey, when in Rome...
Tom