well, since you have started this post by saying that you have been reading some self esteem articles [i]for yourself[i] rang a bell. Perhaps your worry over her poor self esteem is only a reflection of how you feel about your own self esteem.
It is a very frusterating and tedious task to try and change a person. Giving her compliments and trying to make her feel special will not help her self esteem because they will probably not be sincere, if your goal is to make her feel better about herself. If you want to try and keep this relationship working, i suggest you work on improving your own self esteem and working on making yourself feel better about [i]yourself[i]. Keep up with your self esteem reading, turn the focus of improvement inwards. I think you might be suprised. As your self esteem begins to develop, I think you will notice that your girlfriend is less insecure about herself as well.
Remember that everyone relationship you are in is a representation of your relationship with yourself. Change yourself in the way that you want, and you will find that the person that you want to change, may follow suit.  |