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always loved · 07-16-2009, 07:59 PM

I know that sounds weird but what happens is this...
My husband's daughter takes advantage of family members to babysit for her and for any other thing she may want at the mement. She just believes that is what we are all for.
She decides that her dad (my husband) is going to do whatever it is, then calls him to "ask". However if he tells her he or we have plans or aren't available to do it she becomes very angry and ugly to him. She has even had her daughter (his grandchild) tell him that he personally hurt her feelings,yelled at him,called him names,told him what a horrible father he is,told him that she will never let him she his grandchild,even made him feel like he should sleep outside in an ice storm because she would not take the invitation to go to her brothers warm house with the grandkids (kids she picked up from their warm home knowing she had no electricity)instead of the plans she already had made in her head.

My husband just decided to back down to this. He uses the "being a good father" or "that's my family" as if they are exempt from personal boundries because he is devoted to children, all children, his,his grandchildren, even children he just met. thats just how he is and it is a very endearing quality to me but I've just had to distance myself at those times.I am not willing to let him continue to take advantage of me just because he is unwilling to stop her from taking advantage of him.
If he chooses to drop everything at all times to cow down to her (his child) he can do it on his own. I can always find other things to do.

07-16-2009, 07:59 PM	#6 (permalink)
always loved Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 18	taken advantage of in the third person I know that sounds weird but what happens is this... My husband's daughter takes advantage of family members to babysit for her and for any other thing she may want at the mement. She just believes that is what we are all for. She decides that her dad (my husband) is going to do whatever it is, then calls him to "ask". However if he tells her he or we have plans or aren't available to do it she becomes very angry and ugly to him. She has even had her daughter (his grandchild) tell him that he personally hurt her feelings,yelled at him,called him names,told him what a horrible father he is,told him that she will never let him she his grandchild,even made him feel like he should sleep outside in an ice storm because she would not take the invitation to go to her brothers warm house with the grandkids (kids she picked up from their warm home knowing she had no electricity)instead of the plans she already had made in her head. My husband just decided to back down to this. He uses the "being a good father" or "that's my family" as if they are exempt from personal boundries because he is devoted to children, all children, his,his grandchildren, even children he just met. thats just how he is and it is a very endearing quality to me but I've just had to distance myself at those times.I am not willing to let him continue to take advantage of me just because he is unwilling to stop her from taking advantage of him. If he chooses to drop everything at all times to cow down to her (his child) he can do it on his own. I can always find other things to do.