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Originally Posted by Senin  I did a little experiment with my 6 year old. I told her to pull out her emotion and see it in her hands (ofcourse I used simpler words). Then throw it away. Can you do that? She objected. She said, no, I need that. Hmmm interesting. Even a 6 year old (and probably not us) can see it. You need, for a certain degree, your anger, your fear, your lust, whatever. The trick is not to try to throw them away.
I guess, you need to feel them when they come up moment to moment, but not be consumed and driven by them on an ongoing basis. |
Smart girl! Of course she needs her authentic emotion -- that is, emotional response to something that's happening now, and the
capacity to feel emotion.
What she doesn't need anymore to any degree at all is any old, stored-up negative emotion; she can get the
learning from past events and let the emotion that camped out in your unconscious just go now.
Little kids seem to get that more easily than grown-ups do! It gives them an edge over their peers who aren't releasing their negative emotions when they're done with them, too, because they develop useful, positive inner resources much more quickly -- when their little pals are still using expressions of negative emotions (tears, tantrums, sulks) to get what they want, your kid can be building up real personal power.