Hmm...I'm not in it to change her. But she put me through a lot of trouble, not sure they all stemmed from her low self esteem - all in the space of five weeks.
Small Examples: This girl, me and friends agree is hot. But she would say stuff like "I'm Hideous!" - when she took her makeup off and so on.
Big Examples: On my birthday, went out to a club with all my friends, and I went home drunk. She stayed behind and dirty danced and held hands with a few strangers. My friends told me. She said she was sorry and started crying, as I wanted to break up. But after a day or two when I wasn't talking about it, she started saying she did it to see how many drinks she could get men to buy her, etc, and she didn't do anything wrong.
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Hmm...picking fights out of the most stupid things. Happened every 2-3 days.
Best example: Her ex came back and asked her for a coffee. She agreed and told me. I said "thanks for telling me. If i found out from someone else, I would be upset again." Especialyl since that birthday thing was a week ago. No sarcasm or anything, it was genuine and just a comment I made before talking about something else.
She went off the hook for 5 hours, ruining the whole date. We were sitting in the car. She said that I was essentially saying I was her master, and I was implying she had to tell me everything about her life.
The 5 hours went like this:
"You're not my master!"
"I never said I was your master, I never meant I was your master."
"I dont have to tell you everything about my life!"
"I never said you had to, I never meant you had to, all I meant was thank you."
"but you're not my master!"
"I never said I was your master..."
repeat for 5 hours until she finally said OK, I accept your explanation. And we went home.
Next day, she told all her friends, ooh he thinks he's my master etc.
I dunno, all the arguments stemmed from something like this, she takes everything as an attack, even when it was never meant to be an attack, and I can't see how it would be taken as an attack. And a refusal to back down from her position of right, and to force an argument even when there's nothing to argue about. Not sure if it's LSE, but after reading some Eckhart Tolle, I realised it was definitely a massive ego - looking for something imaginary to defend or attack constantly.  |