Great post!
You really got me thinking.
I think a lot of comes down to conviction and the "Act As If" Principle. Fake it till you make it type deal.
Here's what I mean. We can enter any situation or social interaction with a specific desired outcome. For me, I think about when I first started public speaking. On the inside I was a nervous wreck but on the outside I "acted as if" I was the most confident person in the world. The more I acted this way, the more it felt real to me. After doing this a number of times, I actually became the confident speaker. Not to say all nerves are forever removed but I am literally a new person when I speak.
In general, each person has a personal objective/goal in any given social interraction. I think it is the ability to embody the characterstics of someone who is already in possesion of the desired result that ultimately determines the outcome.
Thanks for bringing this up. Great food for thought
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