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blossom · 07-13-2009, 02:38 AM

Thankyou. Sorry, I didn't get much sleep and I don't like feeling misunderstood. I appreciate your help in offering a perspective change...which is obviously something I need to do! I did take it the wrong way, as it can make me feel even worse when I see people who are struggling way harder than me AND seem to be able to cope with it and smile more. I have had a problem with that, I'm not a naturally smiley person...and I get people telling me to smile all the time, so it just is a constant reminder of how badly I cope with things compared to everyone else! I'm working on it though! I am a pretty positive person...I just don't smile all the time to keep everyone else happy, and that's why they tell me I take things too seriously. I smile when I have something to smile about, which isn't every second of the day...so you can understand why it's more than a little frustrating for me!

Just to clarify, my question was whether or not I do take myself seriously, not whether I should DO something about it. I asked so that I COULD do something about it if it was infact me and not the projections of my male friends, as I stated initially!

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blossom Banned Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,897	Thankyou. Sorry, I didn't get much sleep and I don't like feeling misunderstood. I appreciate your help in offering a perspective change...which is obviously something I need to do! I did take it the wrong way, as it can make me feel even worse when I see people who are struggling way harder than me AND seem to be able to cope with it and smile more. I have had a problem with that, I'm not a naturally smiley person...and I get people telling me to smile all the time, so it just is a constant reminder of how badly I cope with things compared to everyone else! I'm working on it though! I am a pretty positive person...I just don't smile all the time to keep everyone else happy, and that's why they tell me I take things too seriously. I smile when I have something to smile about, which isn't every second of the day...so you can understand why it's more than a little frustrating for me! Just to clarify, my question was whether or not I do take myself seriously, not whether I should DO something about it. I asked so that I COULD do something about it if it was infact me and not the projections of my male friends, as I stated initially! Last edited by blossom; 07-13-2009 at 02:48 AM.