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Originally Posted by spirit4711  Not your strongest argument  . Men have a choice to have sex, and could face the choice of their female partner to have a child, if she should so decide. And get child support too. If men don't want that, I repeat, don't get her pregnant. |
Spirit,
You make it sound like when Men have sex its like "caveat emptor". Hey you got her pregnant so its your fault. That makes it sound like the woman is not responsible for her own actions.
So the man had sex and that decision alone now sets a chain of events that gives the woman ultimate control of the decision of whether to have a child?
In today's society, having sex does not have to mean that you must have a child. These are two completely different decisions in the viewpoint of society today.
If we reversed it and said to the woman "Hey if you don't want to support a child then don't let a man get you pregnant". Then it would be the same argument you are making.
I'm not saying that your statement is wrong (because what you are saying is true based upon today's laws) but rather that its not where our focus should be. Our focus should be at the time when the woman finds out she's pregnant. She should approach the man and then they should discuss it as a couple. She should say " I want an abortion, how do you feel about it" or "I want to have a baby how do you feel about it"? She should have the final say however her decision would and should be based partly on what he's saying he will and won't do. If he says "I'm in college and I can't support you" then she should say "wow, am I ready to have a child now with no financial support". She may decide to go ahead and have the baby because of wanting to raise a child and he may decide to drop out of college if he wants to be in the child's life and he will therefore need to help support the baby.
What is the purpose of child support?
According to the gov't its not so it makes the woman's life easier but rather so that the child doesn't get abandoned and become a burden on the State. Thats the purpose of child support.
But is that valid today?