It may be that most of our desires are coming from other sources besides us. How many children would go to school if they were not force to or initiated into it by their parents at the kindergarten level?
There are so many things we are doing just because we are conditioned to do these things. For instance cleaning our teeth and the related obsessions with mouth beauty. How much of that is happening because of TV ads, celebrity spins and peer pressure.
Desires are ongoing. Nothing new about that. The trick is to realize the source of the desire and then make a decision to confirm to it or not. Once you decide that you do not want to confirm you are then confronted with your resistance factor. If you cannot resist then even if you do not want to confirm, you will have to do it anyway.
But the key is to realize the source of the desire. You can do this by becoming more observant of the influences which affect you.
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