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Originally Posted by passionfruit  ...
I really think that the problem is that polyamory freaks them out! Yeah, we've all been sucked into so-called normalcy by being forced to accept heterosexuality and monogamy.
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Hi Passionfruit,
You seem to be interested in a relationship with a couple who isn't poly. The fact is, many people don't feel forced to accept monogamy; many people feel that monogamy is right for them and their relationship.
Our society isn't very accepting of polyamory, and it is still looked down upon by many people. I disagree with these judgments because I believe that all people should be allowed to freely choose the relationships that best support them in their lives. However, isn't it possible that by criticizing their choice of monogamy, you are judging them too harshly, just as others may judge the choice to be poly too harshly? What if poly isn't right for them? What if they are happy and content as they are? Isn't it their right to freely choose the type of relationship that is best for them in their lives?
I am very sorry for your pain, and I wish healing for you, and peace in your heart. I know it must be terribly hard to hear, but this couple is not available for a relationship; they never were, and there is no reason to believe they ever will be.
There are others who are available and open; if you can find others with whom to connect, you can end your suffering and find happiness in a real relationship.
All the best to you and your children.