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Anthony Parkes · 07-09-2009, 04:07 PM

Hello Annemarie!
I've been asking myself the same questions lately as you have

1. What is your definition of cheating?
Whenever your partner gets physically or emotionally involved with someone else without talking to you about it - or asking for your consent (in the case of an open relationship)

2. Are there grades to cheating or all forms of cheating are equal?
Yes there are, but cheating in essence implies very serious problems in the relationship.

3. Have you ever cheated?
No

4. Have you ever been cheated?
Not that I know of...

5. Which of the above is easier to forgive?
None

6. Which of the above would break the relationship?
Both

7. Which gender is most likely to cheat?
Both

8. What would be a reason for cheating?
None

9. What would be YOUR reason for cheating?
Have fun

10. What would be a reason not to cheat?
Not wanting to...

11. What would be YOUR reason not to cheat?
I love my partner - I don't WANT to cheat

12. Would love make any difference?
No

13. Would marriage make any difference?
No

14. Would children make any difference?
Possibly

15. Would gender make any difference *in how you see cheating*?
Yes

16. After cheating, is it better to tell the blunt truth or skilfully hide it?
Tell the truth

17. Forgive or forget when it comes to cheating?
Say goodbye and move on

18. Pay back or pay it forward when it comes to cheating?
Move on

19. Name a situation in which cheating would not upset you.
None

20. Name a situation in which you would expect cheating to happen.
Long distance relationship

21. Does cheating create a precedent?
Definitely

22. Is it possible to never cheat?
If you genuinely love your partner, I believe so.

07-09-2009, 04:07 PM	#3 (permalink)
Anthony Parkes Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Paris, France Posts: 3	Hello Annemarie! I've been asking myself the same questions lately as you have 1. What is your definition of cheating? Whenever your partner gets physically or emotionally involved with someone else without talking to you about it - or asking for your consent (in the case of an open relationship) 2. Are there grades to cheating or all forms of cheating are equal? Yes there are, but cheating in essence implies very serious problems in the relationship. 3. Have you ever cheated? No 4. Have you ever been cheated? Not that I know of... 5. Which of the above is easier to forgive? None 6. Which of the above would break the relationship? Both 7. Which gender is most likely to cheat? Both 8. What would be a reason for cheating? None 9. What would be YOUR reason for cheating? Have fun 10. What would be a reason not to cheat? Not wanting to... 11. What would be YOUR reason not to cheat? I love my partner - I don't WANT to cheat 12. Would love make any difference? No 13. Would marriage make any difference? No 14. Would children make any difference? Possibly 15. Would gender make any difference in how you see cheating? Yes 16. After cheating, is it better to tell the blunt truth or skilfully hide it? Tell the truth 17. Forgive or forget when it comes to cheating? Say goodbye and move on 18. Pay back or pay it forward when it comes to cheating? Move on 19. Name a situation in which cheating would not upset you. None 20. Name a situation in which you would expect cheating to happen. Long distance relationship 21. Does cheating create a precedent? Definitely 22. Is it possible to never cheat? If you genuinely love your partner, I believe so.