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wolfgang · 02-02-2007, 08:57 PM

I usually don't like linking to something else but I was just reading this material and it addresses the ideas of the thread.
The Law of Allowance in Relationships - The Universe of Power

Basically to attract a specific person you are asking to be able to control someone else. Do you really want to be doing that?

I also don't think it's a good idea to try to change yourself to "be a vibrational match" to a specific person because you may be changing yourself against your natural ways, or actually letting someone else control you in a way. I suppose it's OK as long as what you are changing about yourself you would choose anyway, regardless of trying to be with a certain person.

I'm slowly trying to find a way to apply LoA to help with my relationships at it seems to come donw to defining what it is I'd want to be experiencing in a relationship - not too much about exactly who or what the other person is or isn't. That's to say I can only create out of my own energy and feelings. So I'm thinking I need to figure out how I want to feel, and focus on that. And I think what will happen is that relationships will be more enjoyable - that if I do this work of deciding what I want with integrity and deepness, then weather or not a certain person is a match for me will sort of work it self out naturally. Still, just the beginning for me but that's how I see this.

However, if you are falling for someone and you can spend lots of time with her and flirt and engage her and stuff, then it's underway. Interact with her and see if it's fun, etc...

02-02-2007, 08:57 PM	#8 (permalink)
wolfgang Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,084	I usually don't like linking to something else but I was just reading this material and it addresses the ideas of the thread. The Law of Allowance in Relationships - The Universe of Power Basically to attract a specific person you are asking to be able to control someone else. Do you really want to be doing that? I also don't think it's a good idea to try to change yourself to "be a vibrational match" to a specific person because you may be changing yourself against your natural ways, or actually letting someone else control you in a way. I suppose it's OK as long as what you are changing about yourself you would choose anyway, regardless of trying to be with a certain person. I'm slowly trying to find a way to apply LoA to help with my relationships at it seems to come donw to defining what it is I'd want to be experiencing in a relationship - not too much about exactly who or what the other person is or isn't. That's to say I can only create out of my own energy and feelings. So I'm thinking I need to figure out how I want to feel, and focus on that. And I think what will happen is that relationships will be more enjoyable - that if I do this work of deciding what I want with integrity and deepness, then weather or not a certain person is a match for me will sort of work it self out naturally. Still, just the beginning for me but that's how I see this. However, if you are falling for someone and you can spend lots of time with her and flirt and engage her and stuff, then it's underway. Interact with her and see if it's fun, etc...