Mind-On,
what comes through strongly for me in your posts is insecurity. It sounds to me that, in the context of relationships, you find the world a very threatening place. You project animal-like qualities onto people, suggesting that they can barely control themselves in the presence of sexually attractive members of the opposite sex, and then suggest drastic solutions designed for creatures incapable of self-control or independent thought.
I wonder if you've considered that perhaps you're simply projecting your insecurities onto the world outside of you. You will never feel or security peace in this way because you will never be able to control the world enough. As long as you continue to project your fears, you will continue to perceive the world as threatening. In addition, your attempts to control achieve nothing other than to reinforce your fears.
The only lasting solution is take ownership of your fears. Your perception is that it is other people and societies that are the threat. In reality the chaos is all within you. It is the same for everyone. The only real security there is, is when you make peace with yourself. When you let go of needing to control the world around you, you will discover freedom. And only in conditions of freedom can real love thrive.
I can think of few greater motivations for someone wanting to cheat on their partner, than as a result of their partner trying to control them. In trying to manage your fears externally, you're also creating the very conditions for making them come true.  |