Originally Posted by billybrads
By looking at my actions I can see clearly what my beliefs actually are, and I can see that they are not the beliefs that I would like to have, or the beliefs I feel would most greatly benefit me.
I guess my question is once I've identified my actual beliefs by observing my actions, how can I begin to change my beliefs and actions to be the ones I actually want and not the ones I currently have?"
I cant speak for Steve. But i can speak for me. If you wish to change your beliefs, change your actions to match the beliefs you want to have.
For example. say you once held the belief that you are selfless and do a lot for others. Then as you observe your actions, you notice the following
- You have no volunteer activities
- You donít give money or time to people or places you thought you wanted to support
- Heck, you donít help someone who dropped papers in front of you.
Now, you noticed you live incongruently with your belief. You think you are selfless but you really arenít. Everything you do has a gain for you. So, there is where it is your choice. Do you:
A) accept that you are arenít as selfless are you thought, embrace that and try to get ahead.
B) Change your actions to BE more selfless.
As your actions change to match your beliefs, your beliefs get stronger because you are living them.
Back to the example, lets say you chose option B (what can I say, I am an optimistic realist
). What can you do to bring your beilfes and your actions closer together?
∑ Give money or even better give time
∑ Volunteer at a hospital, a shelter, a fire station, hospice, community events, adopt a child, etc.
∑ When someone needs help, give it without the thought of how it impacts you.. (At first hard, but it gets easier)
There are lots of options from the easy (giving money) to harder ones (adopting a child, working with special needs kids etc)
I hope that helps. If you want, if you post your specific example your wrestling with, it might be easier for people to explain things they would do to alter their beefs to match instead of my hypotheticals.