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Originally Posted by Big C  Im struggling to overcome a serious lack of self esteem. Im 42 and still haent met anyone and it the truth be known am fed up of being on my own. I have no end of confidence in other aspects of my life like in my job, travelling alone, social situations etc but the negativity i feel about myself always has held me back where women are concerned. I have a total hatred of how i look, to the extent i hate having my photo taken, avoid my refelection in mirors etc. Im convinced im so ugly no woman would ever look at me. Apart from hating how i look i do have good points, im honest, caring, generous, humourous, loyal, and i keep telling myself these are qualities women would like. The thing is how do women ever get to know your inner qualities if you dont look like a member of the latest boy band? I keep trying to like myself more knowing if you dont like yourself you cant expect others to, but as always when it comes to women i always seem to take the negative out of every situation, i suppose its all down to confidence with the opposite sex, how i can be confident in other areas and not in personal relations i dont know, people that know me wouldnt dream i have this confidence issue as they all see me as someone who knows their own mind and achieves what i set out to do. When you see guys who abuse women and seem to have no problem going from relationship to relationship it makes you wonder what women really want, i always end up thinking id never treat anyone like that but dont even get the chance of a relationship. I dont know if anyone can offer any advice but i just wanted to get how i feel off my chest. Thanks for taking the time to read it. |
on average, how many women do you ask out in a month?
I'm in the same boat except that i'm 26. From experience, I've come to the conclusion that I'm single because i just don't ask girls out. There are people that are way worst than me but they have no problems with dating.