As a woman who used to have serious issues with self-esteem, I know that the only thing that worked for me was changing how I thought about myself. Just love yourself for who you are. I know it's easier said than done, but if you at least start to practice and "fake it till you make" you will eventually notice a difference. Use positive visualizations and affirmations every night...doing that basically "brainwashes" your mind into accepting new beliefs about yourself. Brainwashing yourself with positive beliefs is a good thing! Fantasize about your ideal self. Have fun wit it.
There are lots of books out there on stuff like this. If you lack confidence (which is different from self esteem actually), I recommend Complete Confidence by Sheenah Hankin. If you need help getting rid of negative beliefs and integrating more positive beliefs I recommend Feeling Good by David Burns (especially if you're depressed) or Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman. I'm sure there are some good books specific to self esteem too.
You have to love those parts of yourself that you don't like. Just think about something you don't like about yourself and send love to it, like you would to a child or loved one. Make this a daily practice. Over time you'll start to feel better, and how you feel will start to show on the outside. Your vibration will start to rise. People will notice this and be attracted to it. Don't think of it as "work" but make working on your self esteem like a game, such as "let's see how far I'll be able to raise my self esteem for the next 24 hours." And make sure to give yourself outstanding credit for EVERY SINGLE accomplishment and any progress you make.
So that's all I have to say about that. And by the way, looks won't matter to the right women (although you're probably underestimating yourself anyway)...confidence is the key to being attractive.
