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Originally Posted by Michelle  This is not the primary goal. A person wants to lose weight for a reason. They may say it is to look better, be healthier, whatever - but in the end they want to feel good about and in themselves and believe that losing weight will help them to feel that way. For that reason, the primary goal is actually:
feeling good about one's self.
Since your number one point is off, I am assuming the rest is, too. |
first of all, you know what the saying is about assuming? and second of all,
even if for some reason your primary objective is feeling good about yourself,
then creating permanent fat loss would become your secondary objective and
the rest of the steps would still be effective at producing a lean, healthy body,
you would simply never accomplish the primary goal of feeling good about
yourself, and would probably gain the weight back since it did not make you
happy, because this type of thing is not what could make us happy in the long run
this is the major problem with this approach: trying to feel good about oneself
is not a result that can be achieved in real life by everyone, not in the long
term at least, it is something that is not objective and is completely based
on your personal opinion. No matter what you do, or what you accomplish in
life, you might never feel good about yourself.
Some people are 150 pounds over weight and feel good about themselves,
and some have a body that is perfect and feel miserable, so if your primary
goal is to feel good, you will have a long wait, especially if you do not feel
good about yourself right now
feeling good about yourself is not a true desire, it is a compensation, and a
problem solving approach: In other words, you feel bad, and to find a solution
to this bad feeling, by trying to do something that will make you feel good
but the problem is that this feeling bad might be in the realm of the
unknowable, and you might never discover why you *really* feel bad
this is why it is to anyone's advantage to look at what they do in life, from
a different view point: From a viewpoint of what they want to create, and
accomplish in their life, in other words bring into reality end results that can
be objectively measured in some way. Because if you approach your life from
the viewpoint of trying to find a way to feel good, you will never reach this
end result, and will never be able to sustain it
the most important reason is simple: our feelings are in a way separate from
our *life spirit* which can be looked at as our real self, and these feelings
are not under our control, they just simply come and go, one day you feel
good and do not know why (maybe even while the world is falling apart
around you) and another day you feel really bad (even though everything
in your life is just perfectly ideal)
this is why when your primary objective (main goal, main target, main end
result that you may want to create) is something that can be measured
and when created you can say that you have brought this result completely
into reality, you can live your life creating those things that matter to you
and that are important, and your life will be built around your true desires,
but when you try to live your life by trying to find something that makes you
feel good about yourself it is a little like looking for the magic key that
will open the doors and bring you hapinness, satisfaction, and some type of
victory when you finally find it and open the door with it, behind which this
*feel god about yourself* is waiting for you.
The problem with this approach is that is an illusion, no such things exists.
There is no magic key, all we have and can realistically do in life is discover
our true desires, by being completely honest with ourselfves, and becoming
aware of what is really important to us, and what we value the most, and
obvioulsy what are our highest aspirations. Because your highest aspirations
and deepest values are your truest desires, and when you do built your life
around them you will feel something is missing in your life
the fact is that you might feel bad about yourself almost every day of your
life, and will never know why, so it makes no sense to waste even a minute
going down a road where you do not have the slightest of finding this magic
key that simply does not exist
and why it is more effective to simply focus on creating goals that you can
focus on and that are *real* and can be accomplished in the objective
reality that we all live in