EXACTLY. The idea is NOT to tell yourself things which aren't currently true. For example, if you feel very frustrated about a certain matter, the correct approach is NOT to tell yourself "I feel great about it!" because you obviously are not.
Thanks for sharing the article/study.
I agree with this. It's pretty self defeating to lie to ourselves to build ourselves up. We may want to feel great about a situation or an event, or about ourselves, but that doesn't make it equate in our brain if it is not true to us in the first place.
I think this is where radical acceptace comes into play. "No, I may not be a loveable person at this time, but I am moving towards being a loveable person." That may actually get a person to a point where they know, believe and hold as a truth that they are loveable. Sometimes the smallest steps are the biggest.
Just my 2c